towelsnap
03-02-2010, 04:29 PM
I hate making my life public... but desperate times have made me come to do this.
This is long so if your not sure of custody battles/ or have personal experience/ not sure of a lawful stand point ... I'll save you the read
Issue.
My current girlfriend has two amazing boys with a crazy ex. The father has custody currently due to a mutual agreement (verbal) where my GF takes the baby bonus (due to the ex not having a bank account they use to be joint accounts) and gives him the $900 each month . My girlfriend gets custody on weekends than they go back to their fathers (out of town) where they go to school. They(the boys) live at her ex's moms house since he is currently unemployeed (**note its a run down house in the country and the only heating is a woodstove ... so pretty much a cottage**) .
ISSUE
He just filled for EI , and now wants to change the baby bonus into his name. When he called the agency to do this, they stated why has MY GF recieved the bonus if the kids aren't with her . Since he is an idiot he stated that she was keeping the money and not recieving a dime. Now... without a bank account this will be hard to prove, she has transfered the money (when they had a split account ) into his side so the money is there for the boys .... but we all know the money went into his pocket .
So now the government is trying to come back and make my GF pay over $10,000 indicated that the money was kept unlawful/fraud........what do we do? I do love this girl and want to be with her the rest of my life with all this drama... I just can't see someone being innocent and honest and having to fork out that much money. Currently my GF is a full time student (26 yrs old) and trying to make her life better. She has no job, just OSAP to pay for school/living expences. When they use to live together they have had numerious domestic calls, and he was kicked out her old apartment.
Now since she is a student she can go for legal aid (lawyer) but what should we do ? First I think to get out of this mess and not have to pay $10,000 (which I don't have saved) , and try for full custody. Please any ideas/or help in this time of need will be great..... kinda scared shitless at this point. If you are a lawyer and want to give your opinion (as a tm3 member) please feel free to PM off the record of some tips or if anyone has had this horrible experience please feel free to respond to this thread. Sorry for making my personal life on here... it's not like me... but I need help and fast.
- Greg
"When two people have a child, they each have an equal right and equal responsibility to raise their child. They have an equal right to make decisions about their child’s care and upbringing. This is true whether the parents are married or not."
"When parents do not live together, they must arrange how they will share their parenting rights and responsibilities."
Which also brings us down to the word custody
"What is custody?
Custody is the right to make the important decisions about the care and upbringing of a child. For example, the child’s:
religion,
school and educational programs, and
medical treatment."
Now since she has them on weekends doesn't that mean this ???
"Even if one parent has sole custody, when a child spends at least 40% of their time with the parent who has access, the parent with access is said to have “shared custody” for the purpose of figuring out how much support he or she must pay. The 40% can be made up of weekends, overnights, and parts of vacations. If the child spends at least 40% of the time with the parent with access, the parent with custody might receive less child support."
All qoutes from
http://www.cleo.on.ca/english/pub/onpub/PDF/family/custody.pdf
This is long so if your not sure of custody battles/ or have personal experience/ not sure of a lawful stand point ... I'll save you the read
Issue.
My current girlfriend has two amazing boys with a crazy ex. The father has custody currently due to a mutual agreement (verbal) where my GF takes the baby bonus (due to the ex not having a bank account they use to be joint accounts) and gives him the $900 each month . My girlfriend gets custody on weekends than they go back to their fathers (out of town) where they go to school. They(the boys) live at her ex's moms house since he is currently unemployeed (**note its a run down house in the country and the only heating is a woodstove ... so pretty much a cottage**) .
ISSUE
He just filled for EI , and now wants to change the baby bonus into his name. When he called the agency to do this, they stated why has MY GF recieved the bonus if the kids aren't with her . Since he is an idiot he stated that she was keeping the money and not recieving a dime. Now... without a bank account this will be hard to prove, she has transfered the money (when they had a split account ) into his side so the money is there for the boys .... but we all know the money went into his pocket .
So now the government is trying to come back and make my GF pay over $10,000 indicated that the money was kept unlawful/fraud........what do we do? I do love this girl and want to be with her the rest of my life with all this drama... I just can't see someone being innocent and honest and having to fork out that much money. Currently my GF is a full time student (26 yrs old) and trying to make her life better. She has no job, just OSAP to pay for school/living expences. When they use to live together they have had numerious domestic calls, and he was kicked out her old apartment.
Now since she is a student she can go for legal aid (lawyer) but what should we do ? First I think to get out of this mess and not have to pay $10,000 (which I don't have saved) , and try for full custody. Please any ideas/or help in this time of need will be great..... kinda scared shitless at this point. If you are a lawyer and want to give your opinion (as a tm3 member) please feel free to PM off the record of some tips or if anyone has had this horrible experience please feel free to respond to this thread. Sorry for making my personal life on here... it's not like me... but I need help and fast.
- Greg
"When two people have a child, they each have an equal right and equal responsibility to raise their child. They have an equal right to make decisions about their child’s care and upbringing. This is true whether the parents are married or not."
"When parents do not live together, they must arrange how they will share their parenting rights and responsibilities."
Which also brings us down to the word custody
"What is custody?
Custody is the right to make the important decisions about the care and upbringing of a child. For example, the child’s:
religion,
school and educational programs, and
medical treatment."
Now since she has them on weekends doesn't that mean this ???
"Even if one parent has sole custody, when a child spends at least 40% of their time with the parent who has access, the parent with access is said to have “shared custody” for the purpose of figuring out how much support he or she must pay. The 40% can be made up of weekends, overnights, and parts of vacations. If the child spends at least 40% of the time with the parent with access, the parent with custody might receive less child support."
All qoutes from
http://www.cleo.on.ca/english/pub/onpub/PDF/family/custody.pdf